I woke up this morning realizing the REASON for all the coincidences between The River Guy and The Hurting Guy: They are two sides of the same coin!
The Hurting Guy, analytical, whip smart, logical, practical, willing and able to weigh and balance, slightly on the dry side…even his humor is dry, which I, of course, love! He also has the issue of getting “stuck” emotionally, due to all that thinking (I can certainly relate to that!)
The River Guy, on the other hand, all about passion, and the now, how things feel…plans and ideas and goals change on a whim, at a moments notice, or, often, without even that moment to prepare…hard to deal with as a partner, but never less than exciting.
The other downsides to The River Guy are that he wants things to go HIS way at all times, even when he’s vague and hazy about which way he’s heading. He also doesn’t have much in the way of empathy when his partner is feeling hurt…though he certainly DEMANDS her empathy when he’s feeling that way!
The Hurting Guy, on the other hand? He always has a plan, whether for long-term goals or for the day.. While he remains flexible on his short-term goals (“Naw, I don’t feel like having Sushi!”) He has to consider all sides of something before he changes long term goals.
He also is more than willing to listen when someone he cares about is feeling hurt….and he will gladly accept blame when it’s due, and apologize sincerely for whatever it is he’s done to cause pain.
The Hurting Guy is, in short, the MATURE male aspect, the Father figure, The Emperor in the Tarot Deck.
The River Guy? The Fool, definitely The Fool! In good aspects, as well as bad…life by the seat of ones pants! (Oh, geez, I just realized ANOTHER synchronicity between him and yet one more long lost love…I’ll be glad when the Universe decides that I’ve learned enough lessons that I can stop dating SYMBOLS and start dating brand new, here-to-for un-experienced [by me] men!
Now, The Hurting Guy, to be sure, could benefit from incorporating a bit of The River Guys exuberant spontaneity, His fiery passion (which I know he has in him, he’s a Leo, fer Chrissakes!)
And The River Guy could grow up a little (Oops! Was that my outside font? Yep, still mad!)
All in all, yes, two sides of the same coin…can you imagine the guy that’s the WHOLE coin?
This is a reminder too, that I need to be the whole coin in relationships as well, exuberant, passionate, in the now, and, practical, logical, and far-reaching. In Short, The Empress and The Fool. Yep, I can do that!