…but it’s not love! No,wish it were, but, unfortunately, it’s that OTHER “L” word: Longing…with maybe a wee bit of that third “L” word thrown in: Loneliness! And it’s not just me. Nope, it seems to be pretty widespread right about now…
After I wrote my last post I thought that I was going to stop blogging about love for awhile, figure out some other things to write about, perhaps not make myself quite so vulnerable in print, maybe even appeal to a wider audience. But then a funny thing happened: Because I’ve been so open on the subject of the search for love, both here and on Facebook, friends have started commiserating with me…a LOT of friends! More friends than I’ve ever had talk about it at any one time in the past! Now, why is this? Is it because there ARE more people searching right now, or am I’m noticing it so much because I’M searching right now? Could be the latter, but I don’t think so! Now, I may get a little namby-pamby-spiritual in the next few paragraphs, but, bear with me, I promise I’ll reach a logical conclusion!
So, why are more people searching right now? Well, here’s my theory: After a pretty damn sucky year or two–or three–or, hell, even four!–we all want something bright and shiny in our’ lives, something splendid, something endearing, something life-giving to counteract all the loss we’ve all gone through in the past long while…death; job-loss; foreclosure; relationships that have gone to hell; businesses that have failed; friends that have abandoned us…these are some of the things that I’ve seen me and mine (and the entire country!) go through in a major way the past few years! The world as we knew it has changed considerably, and it’s probably NEVER going to be what it once was. Or what we thought it was. Now, part of that change has been awful and tragic, whereas some of it maybe just FELT awful and tragic (why split hairs? Pain is pain is pain!) But here we are, on the other side, or, perhaps just starting our climb out of the hole, or taking our first step forward through the tunnel, and, whatta we gonna do? Are we going to sit in the ashes and wail, like Job? (hair shirts anyone?) or are we gonna rise from the ashes like the Phoenix? (cool, I just mixed metaphors AND religions in one sentence!) Well, I think we as a society are DONE with the weeping and wailing! I think we’re all about the changing right now, and changing for the better! From the “We are the 99%” movement, to this sudden longing for love. We are redefining what is important to us, how we want to live our’ lives, how we want our’ world to spin…The big houses, 90 hour workweeks, grind, grind, grind, is not what’s important to us anymore…conversely, the fear and stress of not “making it” is not something we want to hold onto either. What we want right now, is a life worth living and someone to share this life with, good and bad, small and grand. Our lives may be simpler than they were (thank the gods!) and they may not be as materially rich, but, emotionally they’ll be so much fuller and richer, lives in which we live, not just survive!
So, here’s what I surmise: I believe that so many people are looking and longing right now because the Universe is giving us the opportunity to burn through our inner obstacles to love, the opportunity to open ourselves to the world, to the Universe, and, to a heart out there that’s opening as well ! I believe it’s going to bring us to a very lovely and satisfying time in our’ lives and our’ society!
(Oh drat! I put the logical first, and THEN the namby-pamby-spiritual! Oh well, leave it to me to do it backwards!)
I will close with a quote from my dear friend Bevan:
“It’s so rare, when it comes up, it’s like a fine wine, don’t you think? We will start a club called ‘When you open me up, it’s like opening a fine wine: Let the flora bloom!’ “
So everybody: JOIN THE CLUB!